emo

emo is a person who like rock music n other things.now a days it is so famous in our socity.most of the new youths like to being emo.we can also saw many emo clothes get up in our socity

What popular song annoys(ed) you the most?

For me:-Goodbye my lover, goodbye my friend you have been the one.. you have been the one for me (Jeams blunt)

End Hopeless Relationships

I read this simple and powerful statement today and it feels worth sharing.  When I first heard it sounded like "giving up".  It also brought up some painful memories where people I've known in life may have done that with me. 

Yes, it's not hard to see that I'm hard on myself.

But looking at it more closely, it has some real merit.  At the Junto a few months ago, we talked about the idea of firing a friend.  I think the step before that is figuring out that the relationship is hopeless.

The clarity of this statement rang right through my soul as I considered a few relationships in my life right now that are hopeless.  (One of which has already ended.)

My definition of hopeless is that it continually brings negativity and conflict in my life in one way or another regardless of how skilled I am inside of the relationship.  It's about getting MY needs met in a relationship on a far more regular basis than.....rarely or never.

I understand that loving kindness is important but inner peace trumps that.  But it's always the question of when I should end it.

It gets trickier when it involves family (a brother or sister for example). 

I can also see where this approach would be almost impossible, with my daughter.  It's nowhere near hopeless but what would I do if at some point in the future it felt like it was? 

How I'm feeling

Blessings received each moment assures us
We are connected to a loving creator

Grace that flows through us when we connect
Proves our feelings, not thoughts, are eternal

Joy that we share in the light of our smiles
Shines on our paths all headed to God

Love freely given because we’re all similar
Opens the doors to our hearts and our souls

The truth is we only have this blessed moment
The past and the future mean nothing right now

I am grateful for you
I am grateful for us
I am grateful for God
Thank God we can feel it

The Difference Between Tennis & Basketball

I was out with a big group of friends the other night at a club when a song by Lil Wayne came on.  First, I quickly realized how uncool I had become because I didn't recognize the song as being Lil Wayne and I know he's hot.

More importantly, the song has a distinct vibe that is too cool.  I was standing next to a friend of mine who is black and I asked him:

"Why is it that, more or less, only black guys can come up with stuff like this that is so damn cool?"

He looked at me and said: 

"It's like the difference between tennis and basketball."

Nothing more needs to be said, I couldn't have said it better, in fact it seems to me that even THAT comment is something that mostly a black person can come up with....classic!!

Finding Wisdom

I'll admit that I spend a great deal of time trying to "catch" as much wisdom as possible.  I think about what books I read, I try to remain curious alwyas looking at new things.

I am not Type A.  In fact I don't really know what Type I am.  Regardless, I don't really have a rigid approach to finding wisdom.

I'm starting to realize that some of the deepest and most meaningful pieces of wisdom come simply from chance.  I met a woman last night through a friend who has beautiful children.  Unfortunately, their father passed away a few years ago.  It affected me deeply emotionally.  However the honesty and directness of the woman was magnificent.

It taught me an awful lot about dealing with death.  The fact is, I move on, I HAVE to.

My daughter of course imparts unbelievable pieces of wisdom to me.  I think she's smarter than me in a lot of ways.

Madeleine L'Engle said:  "That's the way things come clear.  All of a sudden.  And then you realize how obvious they've been all along."

Perhaps the answer for me is to stop worrying about HOW I can find it and simply be present to the now.  It feels like the most likely place that I will find wisdom.

Or maybe I should just lighten up.  :)

I can't define "I love you"

I spend an awful lot of my time thinking about love.  I know that the more I put my attention to it, the more it will grow in my life.  But I'll be damned if I can't come up with a standard definition for it.

I tell my daughter that I'm going to say "I love you" to her but that the words just don't really capture how I feel.  It doesn't mean I don't say it, I say it to Zoe at least 10 times a week.  Why do I feel that the words don't capture it?

Partially because people say I love you in all types of different contexts.  If I say I love you to someone who learned love from parents that were, say, abusive, there interpretation of love is completely different than mine.  The words mean something different.

The greatest poets, artists and hell even Jesus Christ tried to define love.  But it's still different for everyone.  And it's such high stakes.  Is there any one sentence in any language that means more?

It's frustrating that I can't define it.  And when it comes closest to what I think it means, like with my daughter, the words fall short. 

I understand that it means different things in different situations.  But when it comes to relationships, I would like to understand it.

Ultimately, I know that I won't, but it doesn't make me want to say the words any less.

And if you read this far:  I love you.  :) ....but I don't know what that means....

What's My Favorite Hearbreak Song? (Via Vox)

Cool question of the day from Vox (a pretty coool blogging tool).  My answer was three:

Die Without You by PM Dawn
First Day of My Life by Bright Eyes
Best of My Love by The Eagles

....care or dare to share?  (actually not a dare at all, but share if you like....)

Ineffectively building social networks

I'm a member of a social network that is ok, not great.  I went to add friends based on my gmail contact list, assuming it was only going to send friend requests to those in my mailbox who were already on the system....NOPE!

I ended up sending an invite to every person in my gmail contact list.  I definitely would not have targeted 70 or 80% of my network for invitation into that network, but so be it.

The net result is I likely brought people into the network who aren't particularly interested in it and may not be a fit for it.  It's one of the many things that I think are troublesome about social networks and their effectiveness.  Except in this case I'm par

ANFA unveils fixture for A Division League

All Nepal Football Association (ANFA) unveiled the fixtures for the upcoming Martyr's Memorial Red Bull A Division League Football on Friday. As per the draw, the A Division will kick off with the match between Rani Pokhari Corner Team and Nepal Armed Police Force at the Dashrath Stadium, on April 27. On the same day, defending champion Nepal Police Club will vie against Boudha Football Club.


A total 18 football teams will battle for the prestigious title. The tournament will conclude on May 14 with the match between Three Star Club and Swayambhu Club.

Problem solvers can suck!!!

I realize that when I'm in a conversation with a friend who is in pain or struggling that more often than not I will start talking solutions with him or her.  Today I learned why I do so often.

I'm a dude.  Not that chicks don't do it to, but a dude is far more likely to want to fix.  Honestly, how many men in your life can sit with pain and emotions, etc.?  But that one's too easy.

I have difficulty just being with pain or struggle.  And in order to "not" solve the problem, I have to be willing to sit with my friend's or even more challenging at times my daughter's pain.

When I was younger, I actually gravitated towards solutions oriented people in my life.  Let's not dwell, let's fix.  And when we fix, we may or much more likely may not go back to how you were feeling. 

These days I'm often turned off when someone becomes immediately, and sometimes relentlessly, solutions oriented with me.  At the same time, at some point I have to start thinking about solutions.  What is that point?  Not knowing that point makes it hard for me to talk about deep emotional issues with even the closest of my friends.

I am close enough to my emotions now to know that, in essence, sometimes problem solvers can suck.  And unfortunately, I can be one of them.  I think that when I learn when to be a solver and when to be a listener I'll offer even more love to the people who mean most to me.  And allow them to do the same.